Yes, the garage sale was in March. And here it is May and we're still scratching our heads and staring at the fork in the road. Up until this point, we were trying to decide if we should pursue DFCS or an agency (Bethany would be the agency of choice). After some gentle probing from a good friend, Daniel and I discussed this (yet again) and have decided to go down the Bethany path.
Although, I must confess I am apprehensive and battle with the idea of agencies being this legalized black market - for lack of better words. I do mean that as non-offensively as possible. I'm not complaining about the paperwork or the red tape - I completely understand the essentials of this. But it just seems like - how can I put this?? Agencies are profiting on an urgent need - finding a safe home for a child but also adding a little extra $$$ onto it because they know that people are willing to pay to fill the hole in their hearts...
Ok, ok... so maybe I'm completely making this 'conspiracy theory' up...
but that's mostly where the battle of DFCS vs. Agency comes from for me.
But what would we do if DFCS places a little one in our house with the intent of fostering to adopt (that's typically how it happens until parental rights are terminated) and all of a sudden some relative comes from out of the blue and decides they want the baby? A battle would ensue, I know - but to lose would be like - death (I borrowed that one). Not that agencies will promise or guarantee smooth sailing - it's all a faith walk no matter what path we take.
Here's to adventure!!
P.S. http://www.adoptiondiscovery.org/ if you know anyone who wants to adopt, this is a great place for education and support.